How to Talk to Your Kids About War & Conflict
Kendra Bell Holmes M.Ed, BCBA is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst who works with children and their families with developmental disabilities. Kendra is on the board of advisors for Tiny Earth Toys, an educational toy subscription curated by learning experts. She is also a mother of two. Read along to see her tips on how to talk to your kids about difficult situations.
Here's What You Need To Know:
- Start by asking your child what they already know and how they feel.
- Answer any questions they may have and really listen to what they share.
- Choose a time and place where your child feels safe expressing their feelings.
- Young children have a hard time distinguishing their reality vs. the reality of others.
- Instead of using labels like “bad guys” or “evil”, focus on the victims and helpers.
- Consider switching off the news around younger children.
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- Always end the conversation in a state of calm and mindfulness.
How to Support & Comfort Your Little Ones
When conflict or war occurs, it can lead to feelings of vulnerability, fear, sadness, and anxiety for everyone. Since your children look to you for guidance, it may be difficult to know what to do during times like this. Below are some tips from Board Certified Behavior Analyst, Kendra Bell Holmes, on how to open up the discussion and provide support during difficult times.